Sitting in the “Suck”

I was actually going to use another word instead of Suck but, decided to keep it PG rated.

Last year when the pandemic first hit, there were so many people that missed out on milestones, things that were tradition and rights of passion. I wrote a letter to someone impacted in such a way and I remember the first line that I wrote was “This Sucks! It Really Sucks!”

Sometimes just identifying the “Suck” is a liberation, the obstacles that we encounter, the closed doors, the rerouting, the turn your life upside down; they Suck and it’s Ok to sit in the suck and reflect. These (I am really trying to not use Suck as every other word) moments are meant to stop us in our tracks, its ok to feel it, its ok to reflect on it and yes its ok to sit in it for a while but you can’t stay there.

Identify it and move on.

Easier said than done, right?

I am not going to use the cliche “pull up your big girl panties”, probably because I prefer a thong and if you pull them up you get a string up your crack that is uncomforatable. But, these times call for you to get convicted, determined, curious and resourceful.

I have had the opportunity to speak with several individuals over the past few months regarding various struggles they have encountered that they just can’t seem to get over or move forward from. One such individual was (is) unhappy with their current work environment, they feel like they have hit a ceiling and are no longer challenged or valued. Rather than communicating the issues they felt they faced with a friend, family member or coach, they started getting stuck in their head and fabricating conspiracy theories that took them down a dark hole, pulling them further down into the “Suck”. This is one of those situations where what you are thinking ends up becoming your truth and it pulls you further down the rabbit hole. They were so focused on their unhappiness and struggles that, they attracted more unhappiness and struggles toward them.

How do you break that cycle? I 100% believe in what you focus is what you attract. Instead of focusing on the Suck and staying there, what is it that you want? No, don’t tell me what you don’t want, that will bring about those things, what is it that you do want?

Do you want peace? Love? Money? Satisfaction? A new Car? Visualize it, write it down, post photos on your Pinterest page pointing you toward the feelings, items, people, career you want in your life.

These redirections, like Covid, like hitting a ceiling at your current job, like a stalemate in a relationship, they may suck but, using that moment of contemplation can lead you to something wonderful. Focus on the snapshot of your wanted present and future and take the first step toward it.

I am curious as to what “Sucks” are holding you back that you are stuck in. Feel free to email, message, DM me and share what your Limiting belief or situation is and what your first step to what you want will be. Let’s hold each other accountable and celebrate our successes!